If you read my LAST post, you know my kids' school really pissed me off this week...And two days later I am still pissed...The school has not responded to either of my wife's emails, (one angry, one apologetic for the angry one, but explaining some of the frustration.) or my very angry email...After humiliating him at the bullshit awards ceremony on Wednesday, he didn't go to school Thursday...He was embarrassed and upset, and my wife was pissed and didn't care if he stayed home...I wanted him to go, be the better person...But really, should I have to expect my 10 year old son to be the bigger person when his teacher is 70-ish and his principal is in her mid 40's? He went today and we heard nothing from the school. He did get an apology from another student that he didn't get any awards...So if the kids notice that the adults shit on another kid, that's fucked up...
I have talked to some other parents recently and heard some things...Some unhappiness with things that go on there...We put the kids there because they promoted a "zero tolerance" policy towards bullying...I had always felt the term bullying has gotten overused...It seemed trendy...And that maybe we are making our kids too soft...But after my daughter was physically assaulted at her old school, and the kid got a tickle on the wrist for it, I was in with a "zero tolerance" policy....But from my talks, I now know of three families that have removed their kids, or a kid because of bullying and the schools lack of doing anything about it...they all seemed to get the brush off and saw no punishment for the offenders...
There was also a little girl from the school who's hair briefly caught fire at a mass where the kids were carrying in candles...No one from the school ever contacted the family just to check in and make sure everything was okay...Instead, the mother just gets dirty looks because she dropped a F-bomb in the church hallway when it happened and she putting her daughter smoldering hair out...
My son is a high-strung, nervous, sensitive, emotional kid, with eczema that makes him fidget, and A-D-D that makes him fidget more...We talked with the Principal and his teacher earlier in the year, because he said he wanted to leave...He was nervous to go to school most days...He felt picked on, and excluded, and that no one liked him...From talking things out with him, and them, some of this was built up in his head. He would hold something in that happened 3 weeks ago, and pile it onto something that happened last week, and today, and so on, and it would blow up in him...They said they would keep an eye on him, and talk with the students about how they should treat one another...There was never anything major that happened after that but there were dumb things here and there that bothered him more then the average kid...It is what it is...
But they knew all this going in, so on Wednesday when every kid in his class had their name called at least twice, and he stood there in front of the whole school not getting his name called, it hurt us as parents, and it validated all his fears...He had to work his ass off, and his grades were good...There was no justification for what they did...
Was he that difficult? I doubt it...
Is it because we aren't sending them back there because we can't afford it, and because he was unhappy there?
Is it that they don't like me, and they took it out on him? I hope not...If so, I'll personally drive them to hell and watch them burn...
The fact that they have remained quiet and not even, at least offered an apology just makes me more angry and frustrated...It doesn't seem like the right actions from people that teach Christian morals...Love, respect, forgiveness, kindness, compassion...Sure, I sent and angry email, and wrote an angry blog, and I stand by those...But I'm not the one riding around on a religious high horse with a "zero tolerance" policy...I have my own Zero Tolerance Policy...You fuck with my kids, I'm gonna light you up!
I'm hoping this is the last I have to say about this...My wife wants me to just drop it...But if I don't vent My heart might blow out of my chest while watching what I'm sure will be a stressful Rangers hockey game tonight!
Now, My boy is looking forward...
3 comments:
I get so pissed off at our society anymore. We just don't get it: no compassion, no consideration, no common sense, and no discipline or sense of what is the right thing to do. And it pisses me off even more than nine out of ten times, the members of our society that bear the brunt of this screwed up mentality is our kids because it seems like you see it most in our schools. What happened to good people like my principal Mr. Dunnuck or my teachers like Mr Craw or Mrs Yeiter or Mr Campbell, I don't know. But we miss them and their kind. God bless your kid Beeze. Society and his school may have let him down, but I know his Mom and his old man haven't and won't. He's very lucky for that.
Thanks Hoov! It's so frustrating that the adults are the ones acting like fools...What the hell hope is there for the kids!
An update on what has been going on with my son and the kids school...This weekend I emailed the Diocese because the school had gone silent on us....This morning the principal called...She apologized, saying there were no other words then "I'm sorry, I feel awful." She then threw the 4th grade teacher under the bus and put all the blame on her...Then knowing we aren't sending the kids back there, offered a tuition free year for next year...My wife said no, I said we'd talk to the kids about it, let them decide. The boy said flat-out NO...And my oldest daughter can see the pros but said No.
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